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Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Five for Ten: YES!

It's Day 9 in the Five for Ten series, and it's already time to post the last topic.  My, how time flies when you're having fun!  Although I was a bit of a wimp and did not post anything on Day 7 for Lust, I'm back and want to dedicate this final post to my husband.  The final Five for Ten topic is Yes.


It was love at first sight.  I was a shift supervisor at a fast-food restaurant and we had closed for the night.  I heard a noise outside and looked up to see a very handsome man standing at the door. 

Sorry, we`re closed, I said through the glass.  Wow, he`s cute, I said to myself.  He didn't leave.  He pointed for me to open the door.  My heart skipped a beat.  He was smiling.  He wanted to talk to me.  He was supposed to meet my manager later that week to discuss the community safety campaign, but he had to cancel.  Could I please pass along the message.

YES, of course!  I replied.  He had a cute little French accent. I smiled.  He smiled.  We gave each other a knowing look.  Then he took off in his sporty little car. I watched the tail lights disappear into the night and wondered what his name was.

A few days passed.  I was at work again and the phone rang.  It was for me.  It was him.  He explained that he was the guy at the door the other night.  His name was D.  He asked if I would like to go on a date with him.

YES, I said,  That sounds great.  We agreed on a date and time and he said he'd pick me up.  I hung up the phone and could barely contain myself.  YES!  A date!  I couldn't wait. 

We had a wonderful date - dinner and a movie.  We had great conversation.  We liked a lot of the same things.  He was a true gentleman.  When he dropped me off we kissed goodnight.  It was amazing.  I had such butterflies.  I couldn't stop smiling.  We agreed to get together again, soon.  I went in the house and my mom was up, waiting to see how it went.  I told her how incredible he was and how it had been the best date ever.  I told her that I was going to marry this guy.  If he asked me to marry him tomorrow, I would say YES!  I'm sure she was concerned, but she was also genuinely happy for me.

We continued to date and got to know each other better.  Soon I was spending more time at his apartment than I was at home.  My father got a job in another city and my family would soon be moving.  There was no way I could go with them.  D and I were just starting to get serious.  I decided to stay and rented my friend's room while she was away at university.  Months went by and things got even more serious.  His best friend from his hometown came to visit for a couple of weeks and we got along great.  D was really happy to see his best friend and his girlfriend getting along so well.  We partied, we drank, we talked, we laughed.  I had passed The Test. 

Two months went by and it was a few days before my twentieth birthday.  We were planning to celebrate together with a few drinks.  I had been feeling sick and wasn't sure if I'd be up to it.  And I was secretly starting to worry.  When was my last period, anyway?  I decided to get a test.  I brought it home and took it right away, thinking I'd prove myself wrong and get those crazy thoughts out of my head. 

It was positive.

No, it had to be a mistake.  I called D, panicked.  He was panicked, too, but remained calm.  And he helped calm me down.  Go get another test, he said, Let's be sure about this.  I went straight to the drugstore and bought two more tests.  They were both positive.

We were in shock.  We were scared.  But we would get through it.  Together.  He made me feel so safe, so loved.  Sooo much better.

Soon his roommate moved out and it only made sense that I would move in.  We were having a baby together.  But I made it very clear that I didn't want to move in because I had to.  He did not have to take care of this baby.  I could move back in with my parents and he could forget about everything if he wanted to.  But that was never even a consideration for him.  We were a family now.  He wanted to stay with me and raise this baby together.  I was so happy.

Fast-forward to today.  Almost 14 years later, and 7 years as husband and wife.  It hasn't always been easy for us - we've gone through some serious personal, legal and financial issues together.  But none of those things could ever break the bond we have.  The love we have.

We now have two wonderful children. We have built a great life for our family and I couldn't be happier. D is such an amazing father and husband.  He is a strong, handsome, loving, hard-working, thoughtful, handy, organized man. He always puts his family first and he never forgets a promise.  He does laundry and makes supper every night and he doesn't complain about my forgetfulness or my tendency to procrastinate.  He hates coffee but always stops to buy one for me. He gets me (most of the time) and he loves me unconditionally. I love him more and more each day and I appreciate him and everything he does for us.  I'm so happy that I said YES to him on that day, 14 years ago.  I can't imagine my life without him.

25 comments:

  1. Aw, wow... that is so sweet! I loved that. You two sound like you we made for each other. That is so awesome. :)

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  2. One simple word that can change a life...yay, you said the right word, yes. A lovely story.

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  3. How sweet! I love a good love story!

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  4. Thanks, ladies! Yes, we make a good team! :-)

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  5. A wonderful chance encounter that led to a lasting love story. Beautiful.

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  6. Nice. I said yes to my husband fifteen years ago and haven't ever regretted it. Here's to husbands!

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  7. A perfect story of Yes. I loved this!

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  8. You have NEVER told me this story! How fun for me to read it here. And though I know how great it all turned out, I also know it wasn't so easy. You should both be proud of what you've built together. Really a gift!

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  9. I'm moved by your beautiful story. My husband used to buy me coffee when I was a coffee drinker even though he hated it. I've always thought that's the sweetest gesture.

    Yes is indeed the beginning of a beautiful life.

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  10. This is too crazy. I met my husband at a restaurant too. He was actually my boss.

    This is really beautiful. Saying yes when you weren't sure what to expect took bravery. Crazy how all these posts tie in together, huh?

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  11. I love this story. Thank you for sharing!

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  12. What a fantastic story! The brave Yes's you said that led you where you are... lovely :)

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  13. Geez, I just realized that this story could have been a post for all five topics of Five for Ten!

    Thanks for your comments, everyone! I really appreciate it. I really enjoyed meeting you, visiting new blogs and reading my old favourites. It was fun! Thanks, Momalom!

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  14. What an amazing story of *yes*. I was so caught up, with my facial expressions changing with each paragraph my little boy just asked me if I was OK. :)

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  15. What a wonderful "yes" story! And here's to 14 more years (and more) of "yes" for you and your man.

    PS: Does he still drive his sporty little car? =>

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  16. Thanks, Stacia!

    No, we progressed to The Minivan! :-)

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  17. Thanks, Stacia!

    No, we've progressed to The Minivan! :-)

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  18. This is such a romantic story! How many times do we hear young girls say, I'm going to marry that man, and write it off? Only here's a story of a girl and a boy who said Yes to each other.

    A really heartwarming story!

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  19. That is a really cool story. I love when the odds statistically are stacked against you and yet you prevail. (My fave part, as silly as it seems, is how you mention he hates coffee but always gets you some...it's the little things, sometimes, isn't it?)

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  20. Kelly - thanks for your comment! It's funny, I hadn't even thought of it as being a romantic story... we met at a fast food restaurant for Pete's sake! But I guess it actually does sound a bit fairytale-ish! :-)

    Hi Liz - I love that part too. It shows that he didn't just stop to get himself a coffee and decide to bring me one, too. He actually makes an effort to stop where he would never stop for himself and buy me a coffee. It's a thoughtful gesture, not an afterthought, which makes it so sweet!

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  21. That's an amazing story... and a really unlikely one. You guys beat the odds! So wonderful how it turned out. That's one in a million. You know you're lucky, right? ;)

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  22. Awww...I LOVE a good love story - and yours with 14 years and counting is both romantic and inspiring. Thanks for sharing this great YES story :)

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  23. WackyMummy - Thanks for visiting! Yes, we beat the odds! Good relationships sometimes take hard work and determination, but they are sooo worth it!

    Justine - I hope you and Your Guy will share a relationship that lasts 14 years plus a lifetime! :-)

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  24. Shannon, I could have written so many parts of that story. I have a similar timeline--suprise baby and all. (And my husband's name even starts with a D...weird!) It's amazing what saying YES to each other, a baby, and a life together can mean 14 years later, isn't it? When you are in that moment, trying to decide, you have no idea what it is all going to mean. BUt here you are now, looking back with a smile and a sigh. It's lovely. So lovely. Bravo!

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  25. Thanks, Sarah. Yes it is lovely. I love love! :-)

    PS: Our husband's not only have the same initial, they actually have the same NAME!

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